Swinging

Swinging is generally defined as established couples (usually married) exchanging partners.If you want to try this, please, help us keep the divorce rate down.Discuss it between yourselves and make sure this is something you both want to do. If one of you is jealous or just solidly monogamous, you could lose a good relationship.Maybe "dogging" or other alternatives to spice up your sex life are better in this case.

Finding Swinging Partners

"Key parties," where a group of men would put their car keys in a bowl and their wives would each choose a key randomly, were once common in certain close-knit circles such as military officers.This seems to be becoming less common.

Often couples simply discover that they share an interest in swinging with another couple in their friendship group. This is an easy way to find a partner.Other methods include clubs and classified advertisements. Check an alternative newspaper or two.Do a search on Google: "swing" and your area.You'll be surprised at how much comes up.

More men want to swing than women.For this reason, many swinging clubs will not allow a lone man to attend. A lone woman may be more welcome, depending on the club.

Swinging Safely

Swinging is fun and exciting.Abuse and disease are not.Years of field experience and talking with others in the scene have taught me many of the pitfalls waiting for the careless player.Let my stupid or ignorant mistakes warn you not to find those traps all over again!
Your swinging partner doesn't like these conditions and won't agree?Find another.No cutie is worth taking some risks, and his or her reluctance may be a warning sign.

NUMBER ONE: Protect your own sexual health.Many people with a transmittable disease are not aware they have it, so don't accept their assurances as certain.Use the techniques that have allowed many people to avoid the sorrows and suffering of HIV infection.The same tips can make warts and other sexually transmitted diseases a lot less likely.

• Examine your partner for lice, warts and sores. Don't have sex with someone with an active infection.
• Remember that the entire body is covered with skin and sensory nerves, most of which can be pleasurably stimulated. Enjoy your whole partner!
When and if you choose to penetrate each other, use condoms.If the penetration is vaginal or anal, use plenty of lubricant.A latex barrier between you and the other person's body fluids can prevent a LOT of problems.

• Many swinging clubs or parties involve multiple beds or mattresses in the same large room or neighboring rooms. Being within sight or easy yelling distance of others can make a situation fairly safe.
• Some clubs have had the same members for many years.Ask around about your potential partner.Have others had positive experiences with him or her?
• You're new, the partner is new, or you're not in a club? Ask the partner for references. Sounds silly (or embarrassing), but if she or he has been swinging a while, references may be available.
• So you want to go off alone with someone,and no references are possible.(Privacy, or first time...) Get information.Name, telephone, home address, car make and model, license plate number. Checking the name, address and phone on the Internet or a telephone directory is a good idea.
• Set up a safety call.Arrange a time that you will call a friend or they will call you during the time you will be having your swinging encounter.If the call isn't made or they can't reach you, they will call the police. Make sure your potential partner knows this.

NUMBER THREE: Protect yourself from the anger, hurt or embarrassment of missed expectations. If you want to bathe the beautiful stranger in rosewater and make romantic, passionate love on a bed covered with the deep red petals, it will be a real downer to discover that she or he wanted to be fucked roughly while tied up and is allergic to flowers, besides. Discuss what you each want to get from this encounter. Also talk about whether this is definitely a one-time thing or whether further get-togethers are possible.It's easy to hurt feelings badly if this bit is misunderstood!

These basic safety tips should allow you to play happily with a minimum of fear and worry. One last hint: if your play partner talks cruelly about past partners, he or she will probably speak of you the same way later.You, too, should refrain from trash-talk.Be respectful and joyful when you swing; keep it playful, and have a great time!